When you look in the mirror, who do you see?

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It is not just the young who feel bogged down by peer pressure. Adults too are constantly trying to fit into societal expectations of them. Most of the times, we tend to exist in a default setting that we continue working on until we become unrecognizable to ourselves.

However, the best part of you is you!

You are unique, and a masterful creation of the Almighty. The sooner you realize this truth, the better.

To find the true purpose of your life or your true calling is your duty towards yourself. Pull out a paper and pen, and confront these questions:

  1. Why have I come to this world? What is the purpose of my existence?
  2. What do I want to accomplish? What objective drives me?
  3. Who do I want to be? What do I refuse to be?

The thought process and self-introspection communicated in by these questions will help you rediscover yourself.  You will at least be in a better position to give some definite meaning to your life. By extension, you will be living your life according to your personality, beliefs, and value system – rather than being under the constant influence of the external environment around you. You have few things that are non-negotiable for you.

Here, I am not trying to suggest that you lead an isolated and disconnected life.  I simply mean that you will know the reason for why you adjust when you do give in. You will be able to stand up for yourself. I am also not suggesting that you do self-aggrandizement and always play on a false bloated ego. Such acts will certainly jeopardize your good intentions, plans, and aspirations.

“One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself.

Shannon L. Alder

The larger aim of these questions is that you find and maintain your originality. You must always remember as to which way you are heading and where you, eventually, want to reach. There must be a focus on your long-term vision for both your personal and professional life. The absence of such a tunnel vision may find you distracted and confused when you meet challenges. Also, you may discover that all you do may not fit in with your life vision. With self-discovery, you can work on building knowledge and skills which will increase your chances of success in the job you do or the profession you pursue.

Blend right proportions of empathy, self-confidence, and self-awareness into your personality so that the new version of you is original and magnetic!


  1. Kapil Sir, your blog is lovely indeed. In particular, I loved reading this article very much. Very inspiring and motivating. Please write more such articles for us…


  2. Very insightful and intriguing. The recognition of one’s self is no better done than by the individual himself. But often we end up visualising ourselves through the perceptions and images of others. Self introspection and reform are a continuous and constant process and can never be alienated from our lives.


  3. Sir, this article is so insightful and inspiring . When you look in the mirror, who do you see ? I feel answering this question honestly will take really a lifetime. Thank You for sharing this with us. Please keep writing and motivating us always.


  4. Those 3 questions are the bitter reality/truth of life which one should be facing in his/her life and it will also make us realize our motives and intentions to our life…!
    Sir, it’s really motivating for us who have just stepped into adulthood or started their professional life…!


  5. You seem to have a way of seeing right through me and knowing when something is wrong. I always knew that you really cared for me and that I could go to you with my problems. You always had time for me. I am fortunate to have had you in my life. You are an exceptional teacher and an exceptional person. Thank you Kapil sir.. ♥️♥️


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